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Today is week 3 of our Play stages blog festival! Today we’ll talk about Associate Play.

By 3 years children start interacting with other in their play and there may be fleeting cooperation between in play. This cooperation is it is however a loosely organized fashion. During associate play the more mature child soon emerges as the leader or organizer. They develop friendships and the preferences for playing with some but not all other children. during this stage play is normally in mixed sex groups.  Children are now recognizing shapes, letters and colors, solving jigsaw puzzles through mixture of thinking and trial and error. They play cooperatively together and take turns with other children. Show more reasoning skills and asking questions for instance ‘why’ and ‘how’. During this stage they are also start pretend play, for example playing  house, dressing up and cooking.

Next week we’ll talk some more about pretend play!

Is your child now playing in cooperation with other children? What do they like to play?


Last week we started talking about play stages. This week we’ll talk about a very important stage: Parallel Play.

Many caregivers try to make children play with each other, thinking that when children are together they have to interact with each other. But, not interacting is what parallel play is all about; that’s how they are supposed to play.

Parallel play involves two or more children in the same room. They are interested in the same toys and both see the toy as belonging to them, but they do not play together. They are playing and observing other children playing around each other simply because they are in the same area.

Other important things that happen during this stage is that they begin to use symbols in their play such as a stick becoming a sword. They also start to show some reasoning skills, may still learn by trial and error. They copy adults and other children. Parallel play serves as a bridge to more complex cooperative activities, which we’ll talk about in the next few weeks.

Who does your child enjoy parallel playing with?

Play is children’s work. No, seriously. That’s how they learn and develop many, many skills! It is REALLY important for them to be exposed to different toys and have time for structured and free play. It is also important that they have someone that can show them how to play and have some time to explore toys and objects by themselves.

Today we can explore those play skills that are typical of children from 0-2 years old. `

This first stage is called Solitary play because during this stage children play alone. For instance, they rattle, shake and bang things with both hands and there is limited interaction with other children.

Between 0-6 months they look at adults closely, put things into mouth and touch things with their hands. Between 6-12 months they look at and imitate adults and copy movements such dropping objects (isn’t that fun!). They like simple games like peek-a-boo. By12-18 months they learn through trial and error, for instance banging two objects and finding out the sounds it makes. They repeat actions that they have enjoyed. They may start playing with grown-ups and notice other children but they still play and ‘talk’ alone.

Between 18 months- 2 years they continue exploring things with their mouths. Now, they look at other children playing but do not join in the play. They enjoy playing with adults as well as by themselves.

Infants play by themselves because they are so busy exploring and discovering their new world. Every new object or situation that is introduced is a new learning experience for the newborn. Solitary play begins in infancy and is common in toddlers because of their limited social, cognitive, and physical skills. However, it is important for all age groups to have some time to play by themselves!

Is you baby in the solitary stage? What is he/she doing?

I am very sure you already have heard of the “Tiger Mom” Amy Chua and her book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, where she talks about the difference between how Western cultures raise their children and how she raised her daughter “the Chinese way”. If you have no idea what I’m talking about check this link, and maybe this video. Go ahead, I’ll wait…

Ok, so now you have some idea of what I’m talking about. I haven’t read the book yet (but I will!), but I have read many articles about this and I think this is a great topic for debate.

This is what “Tiger Mom” Amy Chua says about parenting the “Chinese way”. She did not accept any grade  less than an “A” from her two daughters, and did not allow T.V., video games, playdates or sleep–overs. Chua believes typical Western style parenting is too relax and focuses on self–esteem over performance. She told Meredith Vieira on the Today show: “To be perfectly honest, I know that a lot of Asian parents are secretly shocked and horrified by many aspects of Western parenting, including how much time Westerners allow their kids to waste — hours on Facebook and computer games — and in some ways, how poorly they prepare them for the future. “It’s a tough world out there.”  

Chua says that Western parents try to respect their children’s individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions, supporting their choices, and providing positive reinforcement and a nurturing environment. By contrast, the Chinese believe that the best way to protect their children is by preparing them for the future, letting them see what they’re capable of, and arming them with skills, work habits and inner confidence that no one can ever take away.

So, I ask you, parents out there: Which one is your parenting style? a tough, strong, parent, kind of like my way or the highway, because I said so, or more lenient, soft, relaxed with less boundaries and rules? I really can’t answer the question because I’m not a mother yet. But as a daughter I can say that, well, there HAS to be a balance!

Any thoughts?

Happy Birthday to my blog!

Today is my blog’s 1 year anniversary! woohoo! I can’t even believe i’ve been blogging for a year already!
I am excited and proud of myself for keeping my blog. And you know what? I will continue, because it gives me the chance to share with you my thoughts, my expertise and  fun and educational information.
When i think about the night and the time I started my blog, I can’t help but wonder (very Carrie Bradshaw!)… what was I thinking?!
I have no idea, but I love blogging and I think it’s a great opportunity to share a lot of information. So, that’s it! Happy Birthday to Language, Music and More…
No questions today, feel free to sing happy birthday to me! 😀

Today is our final part of the Typical Language Development series, and we’ll explore the language milestones for a preschooler. During these years children are excited and challenged by the world that surround them. This is the time when friendships can become long-lasting relationships, their language is very concrete, and physical movements are more coordinated. Lots of changes and lots of learning happening during this time. Here’s what to expect:

Expressive Language

  • They use sentences that give lots of details (“The biggest peach is mine”).
  • They tell stories that stick to topic.
  • They communicate easily with other children and adults.
  • They say most sounds correctly except a few like l, s, r, v, z, ch, sh, th.
  • They say rhyming words.
  • They name some letters and numbers.
  • They use the same grammar as the rest of the family.
  • 90% of their speech is intelligible

Receptive Language

  • They pay attention to a short story and answers simple questions about them. 
  • They hear and understand most of what is said at home and in school.

What you can do to help encourage language

During this time, continue expanding on social communication and narration skills (telling a story) by role-playing. Play house, doctor, and store using dialogue, props, and dress-up clothes. Do the same with a dollhouse and its props, acting out scenarios and making the dolls talk.

What do you think about the Language Development series? What did you learn?

ahhh 3 year olds, the babies are growing. At this age they are more active, talk more and they want more independence. They are exploring the new world and trying to make sense of it. Now, they understand and can express themselves better, so here’s what to expect:

Expressive Language

  • They talk about activities at school or at friends’ homes.
  • People outside of the family usually understand child’s speech.
  • They use a lot of sentences that have 4 or more words.
  • They usually talk easily without repeating syllables or words.

Receptive Language

  • They hear you when you call from another room.
  • They hear the television or radio at the same loudness level as other family members.
  • They answer simple “who?”, “what?”, “where?”, and “why?” questions.

What can you do to help encourage language 

You should continue doing the things you were encouraged to do between 2-3 years old. But now expand on social communication and storytelling skills by “acting out” scenarios of daily routine such as cooking, taking naps, or going to the doctor with a dollhouse or other toys. Do the same type of role-playing activity when playing dress-up. As always, ask your child to repeat what he or she has said if you do not understand it completely. This shows that what he or she says is important to you.

Have they shared any interesting news from school or daycare?